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[personal profile] gallamor
Almost exactly three years ago, we said goodbye to my father. He was 82 years old.

In about 12 hours, Katy and I fly to say goodbye to my mom. I'm glad I had the opportunity two weeks ago to tell her how I feel, and that everything is all right- because it's an open question whether we will make it to her before she leaves us.

She is 81 years old. Don't ask me why this is important to me at the moment; it just is.

I really don't talk much about these things; there is enough pain and death in the world that I don't need to add to it. Both of my parents lived long, productive, and happy lives. Dad passed peacefully; it is my fervent prayer that Mom's final hours are just as peaceful.

The circle turns. And in the West, the light grows just a tiny bit brighter.

Go with God.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm sorry, hon. *hugs you* I am glad you had the chance to tell her how you feel, just in case you don't make it in time. My thoughts are with you and Katy.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
So sorry. I'm thinking of you.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:17 pm (UTC)
madfilkentist: Photo of Carl (CarlWindow)
From: [personal profile] madfilkentist
Very sorry to hear that.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Best comfort to you and your family.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:28 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-09-17 07:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hugs. My heart goes with you.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm sorry, Steve. I hope your flight is timely, but if not, it's good you had a chance to see her a few weeks ago.

Let us know if there's anything we can do to help.
Edited Date: 2011-09-17 07:30 pm (UTC)


Date: 2011-09-17 07:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
My condolences.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:34 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
(Hugs) I never met your parents, but I know them through you. They must have been wonderful people, because their son was pretty fantastic. My thoughts are with you.

Date: 2011-09-17 07:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
It's tough to deal with. Wishing you and your mom the best possible in this difficult time.

Date: 2011-09-17 08:06 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-09-17 08:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]

Date: 2011-09-17 08:50 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm so sorry, Steve. Good luck to you and Katy on the trip, and *massive hugs* for you both.

Date: 2011-09-17 08:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hugs, and strength & healing wished for you and yours.

Date: 2011-09-17 09:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh no. Hugs and hope you'll make it in time. No matter how long we know about the end coming, it's always sudden when it happens and we are never prepared.

Date: 2011-09-17 09:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
You're in our thoughts

Date: 2011-09-17 09:19 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs* and more *hugs*

Date: 2011-09-17 09:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs* and sympathy from all of us. I hope you reach you mom in time, and it's good you have things sorted out w her already. Travel safe.

Date: 2011-09-17 09:25 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-09-17 09:33 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-09-17 09:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
*hugs* And God be with you.

Date: 2011-09-17 10:12 pm (UTC)
patoadam: Photo of me playing guitar in the woods (Default)
From: [personal profile] patoadam
I'm so sorry, Steve. Your family will be in my thoughts.

Date: 2011-09-17 10:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you were in time, and that your flight was easy. Thinking of you.

::offers hugs::

Date: 2011-09-17 11:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
[much hugs] to you and yours.

Date: 2011-09-17 11:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Many *hugs*. I'm glad you had that opportunity 2 weeks ago, and hope that this goes as well as it can for all concerned. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. More *hugs*.
Edited Date: 2011-09-17 11:48 pm (UTC)

Date: 2011-09-18 01:48 am (UTC)
From: [personal profile] hms42
Sorry to hear this news... I hope you do make it there in time.

Date: 2011-09-18 02:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
saying goodbye to your parents is heartbreaking.
Peace be with you.

Date: 2011-09-18 03:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hugs and sympathy. I'm glad you got a chance to talk to her. We're never ready no matter how long we've had. I miss you both, take care of each other.

Date: 2011-09-18 03:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Please let me know if there's any way I might be able to see you while you're here (for certain somewhat broad values of "here"), only if it's easy and you want to. Safe travels and good luck in catching your mom before she departs to her next adventure.

And of course if you need anything, let me know -- unlike many of your friends who would do anything for you but probably can't in this circumstance, I may actually be in a position to do something substantive since I'm vaguely in the neighborhood. Whatever you need.

Love you.

Date: 2011-09-18 03:48 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] poltr1
My father was also 82 when he passed away 2 1/2 years ago.

I wish you and Katy safe travels, and I wish your mom well on her journey.


Date: 2011-09-18 06:11 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I am so glad that you could tell her everything you wanted to tell her. And I do hope you make it on time.
I do feel with you, I think, and should you want to talk with someone just give me a call.
I am trying to come up with soemthing both comforting and admitting that sometimes there is no real comfort because sometimes things just have to run their course, but *s* just *more hugs*.
Thinking of you, Katy, your mom, sister (and brother).

Date: 2011-09-18 06:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Prayers for your mom's peaceful passing, and for you and all her survivors.

Date: 2011-09-18 08:05 am (UTC)
hrrunka: My small wire-strung harp (harp)
From: [personal profile] hrrunka

Date: 2011-09-18 10:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Three years ago my aunt died on 13th September. This year Mum dies on 14th September. Weird.

I empathise with you at this time.

Date: 2011-09-18 11:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
All the love we have is with you both. *holdsyoutight*

Date: 2011-09-18 12:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]

I join your hope for peace.

Date: 2011-09-18 02:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
all our thoughts are with you, dear *hugs*
in two weeks I will hug you more (and from even more people not coming to FC)

Date: 2011-09-18 05:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
May she find peace and joy in her passing, and may you find comfort in what she finds.

Date: 2011-09-18 06:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm so sorry you're losing her. I hope you get to her in time.

You and Katy and your family will be in my thoughts.

Date: 2011-09-18 06:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
My thoughts and prayers are with you.


Date: 2011-09-18 09:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
My profoundest sympathies. I found, for some reason, that losing my Mom was much harder than losing my Dad. My best wishes for peace and healing for you and yours.

Date: 2011-09-19 12:42 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm sorry, honey. This is never easy. May you find comfort in the presence of your family and in the memories you share.

Date: 2011-09-19 04:48 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Virtual hugs. My grandma just passed away today. It is hard when you rush off to someone's last resting bed as the hospice nurses put it there and I a grateful that they were able to help make her passing. My hope is that the people caring for your mom do the same. Again *hugs*

Date: 2011-09-19 05:46 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sheistheweather
Thinking of you and yours, dear. *hugs you a lot*

Go softly, lady.

Date: 2011-09-19 09:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
There is never a need to explain.

Just *hugs*, and to let you know my thoughts and feelings are with you.

Date: 2011-09-19 05:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Very sorry for your loss (saw the other post) but I'm glad you had a chance to say goodbye.

Date: 2011-09-24 11:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hugs and strength for you, my friend.

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